Witnessing a loved one’s suffering often feels intolerable. That’s why it’s common to want to rush in and help when someone close to you is grieving.

But many of us aren’t sure exactly what that entails. What do you say? What don’t you say? Do you just say nothing at all?

Unless you’re directly in a grieving person’s shoes it can be difficult to know how it feels and possibly how to handle it. Everyone experiences grief differently. Luckily, there are ways you can support someone who might be suffering.